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I'm a striver.
You know, a climb-the-ladder, always reaching, trying, working,
moving, going, onwards-and-upwards sort of girl.
{This is, I'm sorry to admit, mostly motivated by guilt or a
feeling of not-good-enough-ness.)
It's always gotta be more.
Not to have more but to be more, to be better, nicer, prettier, sweeter,
more attentive and organized and disciplined and perfect.
And in my traipses around blog-land, I see that many of you
have deemed 2012 a year of yes. A year
to grow… to "feel the fear and do it anyway"… a year to take the
reins and face your life headlong as you lean into the wind. This is beautiful. And for a minute, I nodded in agreement. Yes, yes!
I want a year of yes! I want to
embrace my fears and get ahead. I want
to be better, be more, be everything to everyone all the time! YES!
And therein lies the problem.
I am yes. All the
time. I am always embracing and
accepting and reaching out to take the next rung in the ladder, convinced my
efforts should be stepped up, just a little… bit… more.
And so.
I'm declaring a year of no.
A year of learning to be instead of to go. Of sitting down and watching the fog roll in
just to marvel at the beauty, just to live right where I am for awhile. To experience my year of home for all the precious moments I usually miss. Because it isn't turning out to be what I
thought -- this home thing. I figured I
could ride the theme for all its decorating glory, an excuse to fluff and primp
and hang and paint… a satisfaction for what my home could become.
Instead, I am finding the joy in mediocre. I am finding that sometimes, just okay is
enough. And that when friends fly far
and long to visit and I lament that my house isn't done, they couldn't care
less because they came to see me and they see me in what I've managed to get on
my walls, and they see me in the creative touches I've made around my
home. And while I thought I wanted a
home whose corners were posted around the Internet, I've learned that I only
want a home whose corners are piled with the makings of a life that is all and
only gift, a place where we are us and life is love and the messy and the
graceful and the ugly and the beautiful all blend together to resemble a life
that fits.
I've lived here a month now and I only just discovered that
there is a creek at the foot of our property.
It's a creek you cannot see, but only when I get silent, when I sit on the back deck and listen, I hear the waters rushing through the hills
and valleys of this land. I've
discovered, by slowing down and paying attention, that there is a dirt trail on
a hillside in the distance, and people ride horses up and down this road on a
regular basis. There's an osprey nest in
the tallest tree and a white speckled horse that runs circles on the ranch-land
below. We have a miniature waterfall,
only 6 inches high, a fairy ravine made of rocks and sticks in the side yard,
and the deer sneak in our gate at night to graze. There is so much quiet beauty here, and I
wonder what else I've been too busy to miss.
Numberless still, I count with Ann, the gifts:
- A birthday surprise, friends from afar.
- Loads of familiar, long-missed laughter that feels like a
different kind of home.
- My children forming bonds with people that matter to me.
- Snowmobiling on Sunday, a different kind of worship in a
different kind of sanctuary.
- A confirmation of my calling as a mom and wife -- a realization
that I am exactly where I should be in this big wide life.
- Time, and how it slows deliberate.
- Patterned paper, in high supply and versatility.
- Lunch with mom yesterday.
- Grace to change our minds.
- Surprise toddler kisses.
- A heart stirring, a question on my mind - our family
incomplete?
- Quiet love, reaching out in the night with tangled arms
and hearts.
- Water… clean and drinkable and so easily taken for
granted.
- Mail delivery.
- Soft pillows; deep sleep.
- Strawberries in January -- summer sweetness in the dead of
winter.
